Swooshi

so my husband came home yesterday afternoon to relieve me from my flu misery. i went to bed and he took the 2 out on errands. when i was giving them a bath in the evening my daughter said to me: "Mummy...we went out and got you some SWOOSHI today!!" They got me a strawberry Odwalla drink so I thought she was referring to the SMOOTHIE. I said "oh I know you got me a strawberry smoothie!" she said "no Mummy...we got you some veggie SWOOSHI!!" hahahaha...they got me some veggie SUSHI!!! LOL!

just when i thought she couldn't get any cuter...

LOL

i was just helping my daughter to put on her pantsand ive taught her that the tag goes in the back

so she lined it up and said:

"Mummy...the tag goes in between my buns!"

i burst out laughing at the one...

she's just ridiculous...

Beyond Sweetness

Kendall is now 3 1/2 which presents all things lovely as well as EXTREMELY challenging.

But just now I went and gave her a hug...'just because' and she leaned over...took my face in her hands, looked me in the eyes and said:

"Mommy...you're my BEST friend"

I could die right now and be the happiest Mommy in the world.

sigh...

The Experts

This is a forward that my darling friend Jen sent me. It rings true to me on so many levels...every day I rage against myself in trying to 'get stuff done'. And some days I realize that I've barely sat down...nevermind sat down to play with my children. I'm trying though...and most days are better than the one before.

Enjoy and thanks Jen for sending this along!

By Anna Quindlen, Newsweek Columnist and Author

All my babies are gone now. I say this not in sorrow, but in
disbelief.

I take great satisfaction in what I have today: three almost-adults,
two taller than I am, one closing in fast. Three people who read the
same books I do and have learned not to be afraid of disagreeing with me
in their opinion of them, who sometimes tell vulgar jokes that make me
laugh until I choke and cry, who need razor blades and shower gel and
privacy, who want to keep their doors closed more than I like.

Who, miraculously, go to the bathroom, zip up their jackets and move
food from plate to mouth all by themselves.

Like the trick soap I bought for the bathroom with a rubber ducky at
its center, the baby is buried deep within each, barely discernible
except through the unreliable haze of the past.

Everything in all the books I once poured over is finished for me now.
Penelope Leach, T. Berry Brazelton, Dr. Spock. The ones on sibling
rivalry and sleeping through the night and early-childhood education -
all grown obsolete. Along with Goodnight Moon and Where the Wild Things
Are, they are battered, spotted, well used. But I suspect that if you
flipped the pages dust would rise like memories. What those books
taught me, finally, and what the women on the playground taught me, and
the well-meaning relations - what they taught me, was that they couldn't
really teach me very much at all.

Raising children is presented at first as a true-false test, then
becomes multiple choice, until finally, far along, you realize that it
is an endless essay.

No one knows anything. One child responds well to positive
reinforcement, another can be managed only with a stern voice and a
timeout. One child is toilet trained at 3, his sibling at 2.

When my first child was born, parents were told to put baby to bed on
his belly so that he would not choke on his own spit-up. By the time my
last arrived, babies were put down on their backs because of research on
sudden infant death syndrome. To a new parent, this ever-shifting
certainty is terrifying, and then soothing.

Eventually you must learn to trust yourself. Eventually the research
will follow. I remember 15 years ago poring over one of Dr. Brazelton's
wonderful books on child development, in which he describes three
different sorts of infants: average, quiet, and active. I was looking
for a sub-quiet codicil for an 18-month old who did not walk. Was there
something wrong with his fat little legs? Was there something wrong
with his tiny little mind? Was he developmentally delayed, physically
challenged? Was I insane? Last year he went to China. Next year he
goes to college. He can talk just fine. He can walk, too.

Every part of raising children is humbling. Believe me, mistakes were
made. They have all been enshrined in the 'Remember-When-Mom-Did' Hall
of Fame. The outbursts, the temper tantrums, the bad language - mine,
not theirs. The times the baby fell off the bed.

The times I arrived late for preschool pickup. The nightmare
sleepover. The horrible summer camp. The day when the youngest came
barreling out of the classroom with a 98 on her geography test, and I
responded, "What did you get wrong?" (She insisted I include that
here.) The time I ordered food at the McDonald's drive-through speaker
and then drove away without picking it up from the window. (They all
insisted I include that.) I did not allow them to watch the Simpsons
for the first two seasons. What was I thinking?

But the biggest mistake I made is the one that most of us make while
doing this. I did not live in the moment enough. This is particularly
clear now that the moment is gone, captured only in photographs. There
is one picture of the three of them, sitting in the grass on a quilt in
the shadow of the swing set on a summer day, ages 6, 4 and 1. And I
wish I could remember what we ate, and what we talked about, and how
they sounded, and how they looked when they slept that night. I wish I
had not been in such a hurry to get on to the next thing: dinner, bath,
book, bed. I wish I had treasured the doing a little more and the
getting it done a little less.

Even today I'm not sure what worked and what didn't, what was me and
what was simply life. When they were very small, I suppose I thought
someday they would become who they were because of what I'd done. Now I
suspect they simply grew into their true selves because they demanded in
a thousand ways that I back off and let them be. The books said to be
relaxed and I was often tense, matter-of-fact and I was sometimes over
the top. And look how it all turned out. I wound up with the three
people I like best in the world, who have done more than anyone to
excavate my essential humanity. That's what the books never told me.
I was bound and determined to learn from the experts.

It just took me a while to figure out who the experts were.

Over A Year!

I can't believe...well...yes I can believe that it's been over a year since I've posted here. Phew! A lot has gone on!! Well I'm excited to get back into it. If for nothing else than to be able to have a place to look back on and smile at the memories that we're making every single day.

For instance...if I didn't write it down in 10 years I doubt I'd remember that my 2 year old son busted out with Octopus yesterday...only he says "Appletoast!!".

I can't believe he'll be 2 on Saturday.

Amazing...especially when I read back on this post. I wrote it 2 days before my son was scheduled to be born.